The Mission

I help *women understand their power to create and maintain thriving relationships by redefining love on their terms. 

*I believe in the values of equity and inclusion. Therefore, the For Love Only platform includes people with disabilities, any person who identifies as a woman, and the LGBTQ+ community. 

The Purpose

To provide the essential tools women need in order to heal from the trauma of gender inequity (as seen in family, romantic, political, health, religious, financial, and societal systems) and actively pass down a legacy of flourishing emotional well-being. 

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The Four Anchors of Love

Self Love

Self Love is what we experience when we choose to stop betraying ourselves in order to please others such as our family, friends, lovers, religious circles, and society. We become rooted in self love when we stop fearing the disapproval of others, and have the freedom to thrive in authenticity. 

Family Love

Family Love allows us to have a community and support system who is loving and respectful of us, and our needs. Contrary to popular belief, family should be defined by love and mutual respect, not by DNA. If we have loving and respectful relatives, that's definitely a bonus. But, know that we have the freedom to CHOOSE if and when we interact with relatives who are not loving and respectful. ⁣

Friendship Love

Friendship Love consists of the bond created with our chosen family. We have a mutually beneficial relationship with them and feel supported, heard, and safe. They don't insult us, compete with or betray us.⁣

Romantic Love

Romantic Love is the type of love that accepts responsibility for self and doesn't use the tools of manipulation, selfishness, or jealousy to get what one wants. It's both emotionally and physically safe. It's genuinely caring and attentive to our needs and desires. It's not one-sided, and is mutually accountable, honest, and affirming.

The Four Anchors of Love

Self Love

Self Love is what we experience when we choose to stop betraying ourselves in order to please others such as our family, friends, lovers, religious circles, and society. We become rooted in self love when we stop fearing the disapproval of others, and have the freedom to thrive in authenticity. 

Family Love

Family Love allows us to have a community and support system who is loving and respectful of us, and our needs. Contrary to popular belief, family should be defined by love and mutual respect, not by DNA. If we have loving and respectful relatives, that's definitely a bonus. But, know that we have the freedom to CHOOSE if and when we interact with relatives who are not loving and respectful. ⁣

Friendship Love

Friendship Love consists of the bond created with our chosen family. We have a mutually beneficial relationship with them and feel supported, heard, and safe. They don't insult us, compete with or betray us.⁣

Romantic Love

Romantic Love is the type of love that accepts responsibility for self and doesn't use the tools of manipulation, selfishness, or jealousy to get what one wants. It's both emotionally and physically safe. It's genuinely caring and attentive to our needs and desires. It's not one-sided, and is mutually accountable, honest, and affirming.

The Four A's

Affair

When I speak of an Affair in the 4 A's I'm speaking of a partner who has cheated on you and refuses to get help and be accountable (by someone other than yourself) for what he/she/they did. I'm also referring to a partner who has cheated more than once (emotionally or sexually). Oftentimes, when there has been an affair, emotional abuse and gaslighting are also present to cover up the affair.

Addiction

Addiction can be anything from drugs/alcohol, gambling, sex, shopping, etc. This can also include emotional and verbal abuse and gaslighting from your partner to cover up the addiction. ⁣⁣⁣

Abuse

Abuse includes emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, and narcissistic abuse. All forms of abuse are also considered domestic violence. I know those are big and scary words but we have to call a spade a spade. ⁣⁣⁣

Abandomment

Abandonment includes emotional neglect. Sometimes people will use emotional and verbal abuse and gaslighting to defend themselves about why they're emotionally or physically deserting the relationship. ⁣⁣⁣

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This platform is for you if:

  • You're a woman looking to disrupt the systemic oppressive patterns of sexism and misogynoir in your sphere of influence 

  • You're a woman who believes gender equity is imperative and beneficial for all people

  • You're a woman who is motivated to heal from intergenerational, cultural betrayal, and/or racial trauma

  • You're a woman who wants to know how to deal with difficult, dysfunctional, or estranged family members

  • You're a woman who has a challenging time developing or maintaining friendships

  • You're a woman who's partner has betrayed you by committing any of the 4 A's (Abuse, Affair, Addiction, Abandonment)

  • You're a woman inspired to cultivate mutually beneficial relationships within the 4 Anchors of Love

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I Dare You to Heal!

SELF-PACED

ONLINE COURSES

"Every woman who heals herself, heals her children's children." -Liezel Graham

Invest in your emotional legacy by taking my online-self paced courses. 

 

Online Course Testimonials

Bree Gordon Testimonial
Bree's Testimonial
Chris Renee's Testimonial

"I just want to take a moment to say thank you so much for helping me.  I signed up for your online course A Woman's Healing, because my spouse is dealing with an addiction right now.  But as I took the course I came to a very heavy but necessary realization that I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. I knew he had issues but I never realized what was happening to me. I didn’t understand why every time I looked at myself in the mirror I felt so ugly. I would never have known what was really going on, why I was feeling that way, and that this all started way before the addiction (from the beginning of our relationship basically).  I thank you so much for opening my eyes!  Now I can finally take the steps I need to get my life back for me and my daughter. Hearing the truth is one of the hardest things I’ve had to hear, but feeling empowered again is so worth it.  So from the bottom of my heart thank you for what you do!  I’m so grateful there is someone like you out there empowering women and helping them to find their voice!"-"A Woman's Healing" Online Course Client